Long story short but my grandson is in my care and has been since 5 months old, loved play school and p1 was easier but he’s 9 this year, he can’t read or write and is distracted so has to be moved to a quiet room which doesn’t stay quiet for long, management has no time and it’s all about what they call a trauma, “trauma” what that his mum and dad split up and his dad was in jail for 2 years, he loves his dad and mum, at home he’s easily bored but very polite and helpful, he’s not perfect but in school he’s foul mouthed and he acts out and destroys things, the tried him in an exclusion hub (in a taxi 20 miles away), he was distraught but we kept trying until it ended a bigger trauma, no assessments and no tests done, I don’t drive and I’m 57 and absolutely tired and scared, I know this isn’t a quick fix but no education is wrong and it’s essential, why are they not bothered about this he’s failing behind more and more and I need a miracle here please
When your grandson was in school, there should have been a SENCO (special educational needs co-ordinator), who should have made a referral for an assessment. There should be an Educational Psychology service in your local authority. Have you thought that your grandson may have ADHD and not be suffering from “trauma” as the school said? See if your GP can help with a referral to a clinical psychologist. That’s how I got my son diagnosed.
Best of luck.
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Long story short but my grandson is in my care and has been since 5 months old, loved play school and p1 was easier but he’s 9 this year, he can’t read or write and is distracted so has to be moved to a quiet room which doesn’t stay quiet for long, management has no time and it’s all about what they call a trauma, “trauma” what that his mum and dad split up and his dad was in jail for 2 years, he loves his dad and mum, at home he’s easily bored but very polite and helpful, he’s not perfect but in school he’s foul mouthed and he acts out and destroys things, the tried him in an exclusion hub (in a taxi 20 miles away), he was distraught but we kept trying until it ended a bigger trauma, no assessments and no tests done, I don’t drive and I’m 57 and absolutely tired and scared, I know this isn’t a quick fix but no education is wrong and it’s essential, why are they not bothered about this he’s failing behind more and more and I need a miracle here please
Adele69, this sounds so difficult for you but there is help out there its just to find it in your local area. If you are caring for him under a formal Order perhaps you can try to access your council’s Virtual School. They might be able to point you to additional resources. It might also be worthwhile to talk with the council’s Children Services who again should be able to signpost you to some help.
It sounds as if you are a Kinship/connection carer - weather acknowledged formally or not - and that designation is likely to give you access to additional support. Have a look at the website attached. Hopefully, they’ll be able to give you some advice.
All the best
Thank you for your responses, I’m going to try and enjoy the school holidays with no pressure, the school still hasn’t been in touch with me about what class he goes in after the holidays and I’ve had no input from anyone, to be honest I haven’t contacted them either because I don’t want to keep ranting at them I’m starting to sound like I’m a crazy person, the ADHD is something that needs looked at, his dad was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 11 and I blame myself for how he turned out because he was put on medication and to me lived a false lifestyle and he was a lovely wee boy and i still say to this day he didn’t have it, but it means so much reading all the replies thank you so much